If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”
So the Holy spirit is given to those who ask the father for it.
And we are told to not harden our hearts.
As has just been said: ”Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion.”
But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart.
But nowhere in the bible as far as I can see does it say that you are to be nice to others. It does say that you are to serve others, love your neighbor, especially those in need and not repay evil with evil and be kind to your wife. But you are to move away from the unfaithful.
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Humble means not proud or haughty, not arrogant or assertive, reflecting, expressing, or offered in a spirit of deference or submission, ranking low in a hierarchy or scale, insignificant, unpretentious, not costly or luxurious.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
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